“You’re so pretty!”
“Hah no, I’m ugly.”
This response may jump from you so fast you don’t have time to even contemplate what you’re saying, but this is one thing above all else that aggravates me.
This repsonse is wrong on so many levels. Why do girls feed themselves these lies?
Saying you’re ugly not only insults yourself but your Creator.
Often, people think within small contexts—within themselves.. Rarely do they let their train of thought leave the realm that concerns themselves—how to make themselves happy, how others percieve them, how they compare to others, how to make their lives easier for themselves.
It’s called selfishness.
When we think about ourselves, do we remember that God himself, the God of the Universe and Author of beauty, crafted you? Doesn’t God know more about beauty than you?
So stop thinking about yourself and how you compare, but more about your Creator and how wonderful He is.
One other reason girls are so quick to reject compliments could be fear of pride. A lesser reason, but still, I was afraid of pride for a long time. Beauty is an easy way to become vain or conceited.
Instead of disregarding yourself (and God!) ask God to safeguard you from your pride. Then, accept that you are beautiful, and move on. Focus more on the beautiful kindness of the person who complimented you than whether you deserve that compliment or are good enough. Be others centered.
One thing CS Lewis said was, “By this method thousands of humans have been brought to think that humility means pretty women trying to believe they are ugly and clever men trying to believe they are fools. And since what they are trying to believe may, in some cases, be manifest nonsense, they cannot succeed in believing it and we have the chance of keeping their minds endlessly revolving on themselves in an effort to achieve the the impossible.”
So convincing yourself that you’re ugly in attempt to be humble is not going to work. You’ll be trapped in a hamster wheel of going nowhere humility-wise, and will still be trapped in the trap of thinking about yourself all the time.
“He must become greater, I must become less.”